“People say that what we are seeking is a meaning for life.
I don’t think this is what we’re really seeking. I think what we’re seeking is
an experience of being alive.” – Joseph Campbell, the Power of Myth
We landed at Dusseldorf airport after a surprisingly long
flight from Moscow. Annoyingly we were last in line to clear immigration and I was getting panicky as I didn't want to leave our friend waiting.
The reason that Dortmund, Germany (of all places) was the final stop on our
vagabonding odyssey, was because our good friend Alex was currently studying at
the technical University there. We hadn't seen Alex since he had visited the UK a couple of years previous, so, we figured, as we were heading home,
why not drop him a visit. As we walked through the gates there he was waiting
for us, it was a delight to see him and we exchanged the usual pleasantries
whilst we sorted out our euros. It was strange being back in Europe, it’s like
we were gradually weaning ourselves back into British culture. Once we had sorted
ourselves out we headed to the train station to catch the train back to
Dortmund. The trains in Germany are pretty flashy, plenty of space, very clean,
and we found a seat, it was a big change from the jam-packed, dirty, old
Russian metro trains that we were used to by this point.
That evening we dropped our bags at Alex’s flat and shared
pizza whilst talking about old times and new. It was great to finally see a
familiar face, although we had stayed with Sergey and his family in Russia, I didn't know them extremely well, whereas, Alex was a great friend of mine who I’d
been through this amazing experience with (working and travelling in America),
we had a lot to talk about. After pizza and a few trusty German beers we
settled in for the night as Alex had University the next day.
The next day we met Alex at his University campus for some
lunch in their cafeteria (one of the cheapest places to eat in town) and he
showed us around the place. Like the trains, it was clean, spacious, and modern
and I imagine studying there is a fantastic experience. The sun was shining for
the first time in a long while and it was certainly not as cold as Russia so we
escaped into Dortmund town and walked around the few sights that there are to
see there and also checked out some of the shops and the Christmas markets that
we slowly being set up. Dortmund is home to the biggest Christmas tree in the
world and they were just putting the finishing touches to that as well. After
dinner that evening we went to a local park that lies just behind Alex’s flat.
Now, you have to pay to get into this park, it’s like, two
euros or something, I can’t really remember, but it was pretty late and
everything was closed up and Alex told us that he had managed to get in without
paying before, but alas, the fence seemed unclimbable, maybe they had upped
security or something, but we did manage to only pay for one and all clamber
into the turnstile. They had these giant swings in the park that we hung out on
for ages, we swung, and we talked and we laughed, and we swung some more. It
was good to be reunited. We spent a long time that evening walking around the
park and taking in the sights and the many children’s playground rides that we
had to have a go at!
Alex took the next day off of University and we headed to
Cologne (or Koln as it should be called). Koln is about an hour away from
Dortmund and we got up nice and early to catch the train, only to realise that
during peak times the train prices are extortionate, so, we waited until 9:00am
to catch one of the cheaper trains into Koln. I suppose the main draw of Cologne
is the giant cathedral, I don’t think I've ever seen a bigger cathedral in my
whole life. I've seen bigger temples though, oh, how I miss Asia. The Koln
Cathedral soared into the sky and inside it was nothing short of magnificent.
We weren't used to going in cathedrals yet and they were a welcome change from
temples. We spent a while in here trying to take photos in places we weren't supposed to. Then we moved on and walked through central Koln, it wasn't incredibly busy and we got a flavour of the place, people busking on street
corners, the scent of freshly cooked bread wafting from bakeries along every
sidewalk. We eventually headed down to the riverside and spent a good while in
the chocolate factory nestled on the waterfront. There were three or four
floors of chocolate history goodness and we had a good laugh playing the children’s
games on the fourth floor. We walked back to the train station after this,
through the narrow old alleyways and cobbled streets, that evening we went for
a drink in town, there was a German football game on the television. The Germans
love their football about as much as the English do, and the Dortmund team is
one of the most successful in the country, the people here flaunt their
Dortmund t-shirts and scarves with pride.
We spent the next day just hanging around town and had a
nice dinner with Alex in the evening and on our last day we did some gift
shopping and wrapped up lots of presents ready for coming home, we packed up
our things and got excited for the journey back. On our last evening we went
out on a cocktail tour of Dortmund with a bunch of Alex’s friends, we must have
hit about seven of the ten bars on the cocktail tour and gotten a different
drink in each place. It was cool to meet all of Alex’s friends there in Germany
and have a ‘proper’ night out with a bunch of students, something we hadn't done in a long time. Cambodia felt like another world away from me.
Alex was kind enough to accompany us to the airport on our
way home the next morning. Unfortunately our flight home was the worst flight
of all time, we were sat just in front of some incredibly loud and incredibly
drunk Germans, who just wouldn't give it a rest and to top that the flight
staff weren't much of a help either, they were rude, obnoxious and set in their
ways, it was a British airline and I was so looking forward to coming home
after being away for such a long time but those flight attendants embodied
everything I was trying to get away from in the first place, everything I had learnt
I should be. But, we landed on time and after waiting about half an hour for
our luggage we walked through the gates and this time it wasn't Alex waiting
for us, it wasn't a new foreign destination that we were about to get ready to
explore, it wasn't uncertainty and unfamiliarity, it wasn't grandeur and
adventure, it was family, and that felt pretty good. I was bundled into a cornucopia
of hugs and welcome homes and before I knew it I was in my parents new car, on
the motorway, heading home.
I've been home for quite some time now and the reason it’s
taken me so long to write this blog is because I've really been toying with how
to write this next part. How to conclude; how to write a denouement for this
part of my life that I’m happy with. Today, I figured I’d just get on and write
it. I must tell you, that of all the adventures and challenges that you face
whilst travelling, the hardest, the most heart wrenching, the most challenging,
is coming home. Coming home was sad because it marked the end of all that
freedom, all that fun, all that peace that I had found on the road, and it was
happy because I got to see all of my friends and my family, and go to those
places like the New Forest where I’d been longing to go for so long. It turns
out that coming home isn't happy, and it isn't sad, it’s just really weird,
really strange and really unsettling.
Everything here looks the same as it did
when I left, but it feels completely different. There’s that old saying that
springs to mind, that you can’t really know your home until you've been away
for a long time and come back. You see it through completely new eyes. The
trouble is, and continues to be, that I feel like a stranger here. You’d think
that feeling would have subsided by now, I've been back in the game here for a
while but I can’t shake the feeling that I’m missing something from my life.
Don’t get me wrong, I appreciate all the home comforts, movie nights, playing
games with my friends, earning money, looking to my future, but what I can’t
shake is this homesickness, not for home, but for the road.
My friends, and my family, as much as I love them, cannot
help in this, the trouble is (without sounding patronising) as exciting and
amazing and life enhancing as my travel experiences were (and not just travel
but working in Korea as well), my friends can’t relate, my family can’t relate,
because they probably don’t share the same values I took out on the road with
me in the first place. You can share life changing conversations with people on
the road, and in an hour you will have had a meaningful, philosophical exchange
of ideas but my friends and family back home still talk about the same things, the
same standard conversation patterns that I had escaped for so long, therefore
it must be very difficult for them to really take an interest in our
adventures, because they don’t want those adventures themselves. It’s one of
the most difficult things about being home, trying to tell friends about how I
ate a spicy dog soup, or got a gun pointed at me in a Russian slum, or got
money stolen in a rice paddy in Laos, or had a conversation with a Cambodian
street kid that changed my whole perspective on charity, when you tell these
stories there is little response outside of ‘yeah, wow that must have been
great’ with no enthusiasm, and then they start talking about television or how
they’re fixing their car up or about hook ups they were having, about whose
been sleeping with whom, I used to think I was missing out on so much whilst I
was travelling, but I wasn't I’m a changed person, and I've decided that it’s
best to keep those amazing travel stories between Natalie and I, they’re ours
and nobody can touch them, as Walt Whitman wrote ‘It is best to leave the best
untold’.
What I've been trying to do is take what I learnt whilst
travelling and apply it to my life here, and in some aspects of my life I've been doing that and in other aspects I haven’t. It’s been very hard. So, what
am I doing now? I've been back just over two months, I had a wonderful
Christmas with my loved ones and I am settling back into life at home. I have a
job, I’m earning money and saving it ready to move out, I’m applying for my
PCET PGCE teaching qualification which I’ll be starting in September, and I’m
moving forward, onto the next adventure. There’s not a day that goes by that I
don’t think about the past year and a half. I’m going to keep living my life creatively,
without limits, always trying to create a new adventure or a new experience and
hopefully before I know it, I’ll be back out on that road again, creating more
memories that will stay with me forever.
